Embracing My Side Character Season

As I received exciting news of two pregnancies in my friend group, I started to think of all the ways I would be involved. While contemplating how I could help them through postpartum life, I began to meditate on my own life.

After college many of the big, main character moments like dating, married life, motherhood, and homeownership, seemed to allude me. My life is normal. Simple. Sometimes, boring.

There are days where I feel discontent with the lack of motion in my life. Am I doing enough? What is the next achievement? Should I have settled for that one guy back in 2019? Am I being left behind as a woman in my mid 20s? My contemplation led me to this conclusion: I’m in my side character season.

To everything there is a season, A time for every purpose under heaven: A time to be born, And a time to die; A time to plant, And a time to pluck what is planted; A time to kill, And a time to heal; A time to break down, And a time to build up; A time to weep, And a time to laugh; A time to mourn, And a time to dance; A time to cast away stones, And a time to gather stones; A time to embrace, And a time to refrain from embracing; A time to gain, And a time to lose; A time to keep, And a time to throw away; A time to tear, And a time to sew; A time to keep silence, And a time to speak; A time to love, And a time to hate; A time of war, And a time of peace.

There is a time for everything. Sometimes these periods are called seasons. And there is not one season that is not meant to be fully experienced. In a world that seeks to produce discontentment between seasons, it has become my desire to live fully in every season; no matter how stagnant it may be.

This is not to say that you need children or marriage to live a “main character” life. There are certain achievements in life that thrust a person into the forefront of everyone’s minds. I consider these to be main character moments. On top of marriage and children there are graduations, international travel, career advancements, moving, homeownership and more such adventures.

I have previously mentioned in my other blog post “I Can Wait“, that these main character moments are all big milestones that are both exciting but life altering.

My life is normal but it is also peaceful. I get to put my all into being a better friend, a soon to be aunt, and focusing on my personal growth. I can go to my job and come home to my baby dog and play with clay and paint and eat and nap and maybe eat again! I can learn to pray and fast without pressure. I can grow and struggle in Christ and mess up and learn without affecting anyone.

I will gladly sit out this season and take on the role of a loving supportive character for those who are blessed to have these main character experiences.

Every season is meant to be fully experienced and fully lived in. I refuse to let this one be wasted.

With Love,

The Road Writer

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