Mini Motivation: Cry Over Spilt Milk

“Don’t cry over spilt milk!”

You may recognize this as a phrase often used to explain what one should do when a problem occurs: don’t cry, fix the problem. A clever thought and one that shaped how I dealt with my sensitivity for years.

If you grew up sensitive, you probably know the drill. Something triggers you; your eyes start to well up, you excuse yourself to the bathroom so you can stop yourself from crying. You probably start to repeat to yourself that “it’s okay” and “it’s not that serious”.

The worst part, it’s over something small like being ignored, or fussed at by an authority figure. Normal scenarios that someone else may not think twice about will loop in your mind for hours. So, when the feelings don’t go away fast enough you can’t help but hate yourself for feeling so much over something so…minor!

Why can’t I get over it?!

From childhood to college, I struggled with understanding my emotions and my proclivity for feeling “too much” over small issues. Someone could tell me to “chill out” or express displeasure with my personality, and I would have to leave to deal with the flurry of emotions that were triggered by seemingly minor events. I hated myself, because I couldn’t get over things as fast as my peers. I constantly wondered why I was so sensitive! It didn’t help that no one around me knew how to deal with it either. In their minds it was simple: If you can fix your problem don’t cry about it. If you can’t fix your problem, why cry about it!?

Again: Don’t cry over spilt milk.

Why am I so sensitive?!

If no one told you this before, I’m here to inform you it’s okay to feel your emotions, no matter how small or stupid they may be. Allowing your heart to work through its feelings is healthy. The problem occurs when we either harden our hearts or we never resolve the main issue.

Contrary to popular belief, it’s okay to cry over spilt milk! Just clean the milk when you’re done!

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You don’t need to live by your emotions, but you shouldn’t dismiss them either. Even the feelings that aren’t justified!

Are you sad because you made such an obvious mistake and now you feel inadequate? It’s okay to feel that disappointment.

Maybe you’re starting to feel anxious over possible scenarios playing in your head? Allow yourself to feel anxious.

We can cry over the spilt milk; we just have to clean it up at some point! That means eventually your crying should transition to scripture, prayer, journaling, therapy, etc. You can feel “negative” emotions, just don’t let it end there.

This is an Indepth topic, and I do plan on exploring it more thoroughly on this blog but until then, stay sensitive!

With love,

The Road Writer

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